We always show the ones we love the most our worst side. The same is for our kids. They show us the worst of them because we are mom and we will always love them. However, just because we see their worst doesn’t mean we dwell on it. It’s so easy to point out flaws in everyone else especially when we are overwhelmed. And let’s face it, that’s the majority of the time for most moms.
I have been thinking about this a lot lately. When people compliment my kids behavior, I usually respond with something like “I’m glad they were good for you” or “they aren’t this good for me.” It is frustrating to have my kids be good for other people and give me the bad stuff. It’s exhausting! But I am mom, I do love them no matter what. I am glad they are comfortable enough to show me their true side. They can learn how to act, respond, react with me.
So, all this to say, I want to point out the good I see in my kids. Sometimes you have to be intentional about looking at the positive because the negatives can bring you down and keep you there if you let it.
My oldest is very artistic. He is very talented at drawing. That skipped a generation because he definitely didn’t get it from me. 😉 My second has so much determination and drive. He goes after things full force. This works great with him wanting to be an athlete. My 3rd is really creative. He loves to draw but also can cut out random strips of paper to make his masterpiece. (And it looks amazing!) My 4th is a happy kid. We call him chuckles because he’s always smiling or laughing. He wakes up laughing even in the middle of the night. My 5th is very inquisitive. He wants to figure out how to make things work. Like what would happen if he did ______?
Now each of these things can be looked at in a positive or negative light. But I choose to look at the good my kids do instead of only seeing the bad. I love my crazy, loud, fun, energetic boys! I wouldn’t have it any other way.
What’s something positive you can say about each of your kids, old or young? Tell me a story, characteristic, anything uplifting about you kids. Then, go tell them! Let them know you see the good in them not only negative. Speak life into your kids!