Something I’ve been struggling with in this crazy life I live, is finding one on one time with my daughter, Avarie. Before I started babysitting, her and I use to spend time just us every day, but now I’m busy watching all three kids and she is busy playing. We don’t get home till late and that couple hours we are home is spent making dinner, eating, and spending some time with my husband before bed. On the nights Avarie is with her dad, after I drop her off I don’t see her until she gets home and then she goes straight to bed. Finding a balance between one on one time with my husband and with my daughter is hard.
I want to be the best mom I can be, but I want to be the best wife I can be as well. I get to spend all day with Avarie, even though she is busy playing with her friends, that by the time I get home I’m ready to relax and enjoy the company of my husband. How do you find that equal balance?
I’ve been thinking about trying to have little dates with Avarie, not all the time, but every once in awhile. She’s getting bigger and as I watch her I see just how much she’s becoming not so much a toddler anymore, but a little girl. I look at her and think to myself how I miss her, I miss that one on one time we shared. My goal is to be a better mom, she knows how much I love her, but I don’t want to ever look back and regret not doing more with her. She will always be my baby, but we often get lost in this world and forget to stop and smell the roses, and she is my rose and I’m about to stop and starting cherishing those special moments I have with her a little more.
That is going to be my New Years resolution! It doesn’t have to start with the New Year, it can start right now and it already has. The last five minutes of my shower I let her hop in so I could wash her hair and body before bed, we got to enjoy that mommy, daughter time. As we got out of the shower we got dressed for bed and ended the night with chocolate and a bedtime story. That 15 minutes spent one on one already made a difference in how I feel, and I’m sure it made Avarie very happy to get a little extra time together before bed.
It doesn’t matter how you spend your one on one time with your child/children as long as its happening. Every other night we read a story and sing our songs before bed, and that is ten minutes spent together right there before bedtime. I will also start taking her on little dates, like shopping (you don’t even have to buy anything just go look around and have fun), getting ice cream, watching one of her favorite movies together, baking cookies together, or playing together.
Do any other moms struggle with trying to find a balance? What are some things you do to make your child/children feel special? How do you spend one on one time with your child? How do you spend one on one time with multiple children?
