I am not a fighter. I am a natural peacemaker to a fault. I like to make people happy!
Pros
I try to keep the peace wherever I go. I try to be really understanding with what someone else might be dealing with. With my husband, he may have had a bad day at work and need to destress. With my kids, they are growing and learning new things about themselves. They are trying to navigate things as best as they can. When it comes to people outside of my family, I try to not be an inconvenience to anyone I’m around. I know I can’t please everyone but it’s something I try to do. I don’t even think about it. I try to do what I can to make everyone around me have a good day. I strive to be positive when possible. I don’t look at myself as being a door mat but as looking out for how I can make someone else’s life, moment or situation easier.
Cons
I hate debates! I am not quick on my feet so I know I will sit there dumb founded while someone else tears me to shreds. I end up getting so mad that I will say something I don’t mean just to try to get it all to stop. I want to stand up for people and sometimes I can but most of the time I can’t think of what to say. It’s like when I get stressed or know something is wrong my mind just blanks! It’s very frustrating because I want to do the right thing but can’t. I want to fight for my kids if someone is being unfair. I want to fight for injustice. I want to fight for being overcharged in some sort of bill. I try to do these things but after a certain point I don’t know what else to do but retreat.
Are you more of a peace maker or a fighter? Do you shy away from arguments or stand your ground?